Relationships are the most complex form of self-destruction which involves other people. Also, they are the most important elements in creating yourself.
I don’t see the point in spending days next to someone who does not help you grow, who does not understand you and who does not make you feel happy, because feeling and being are two different things. You shouldn’t be in a relationship with someone who is less stronger than you are. You should be with someone who can protect you from other people and from yourself.
You shouldn’t be in a relationship with someone who doesn’t tell you everything because if someone hides something from you once, he or she will do it again and again. Don’t be in a relationship with someone if you don’t completely trust them, if you don’t feel free to talk about everything and without restrictions. If you are unable to find a subject for your conversation and everything is swollen by that cruel monotony, don’t continue this tragedy.
One of my best friends asked me, at some point : If you don’t wake up happy because you are allowed to live another day next to your one-and-only, why the fuck are you still in a relationship?
He was right. In time, from being “in love” with someone we became “addicted” to someone. You cannot imagine your life without that person, nothing makes sense and you feel completely lost. If that relationship ends, you became unable to breathe, unable to heal and unable to move on. But that’s only in your head. In reality, you can control everything. Stop crying over people who walk in and out of your life. They are not “sad stories” or “never-gonna-talk-about-that-shit-again”, they are just life lessons.
Intellect wins, emotion starts crying.
You must learn from them how much you can and when things go wrong, stop for a minute and think about your own good, because, in the end, YOU have to handle everything by yourself. Be selfish, even if it is not right. Do what you want, do what makes you happy, do what makes you feel proud of yourself because you and yourself are the only ones that matter.